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[quote name='CorruptLeader' timestamp='1329766927' post='662806'] Sometimes "grudges" are just internalized wounds that haven't healed. I think you need to heal. I understand that you're not trying to accuse your brother, but you are definitely still hurting from his actions. He may feel more deeply sorry than you think. (Personally, I suck at expressing emotions lol.) Perhaps, you should to talk to him about your pain that way since he is the cause of your pain, he can help you heal. You seem to be convinced his actions are still not actions of the past. Talk to him and give him a chance to help put them in the past for you. Communication is key to helping him understand how much this hurt you. (Some people just won't know how you're feeling if you don't share.) If he is a genuine friend, then he will be concerned about the pain you feel. He will be eager to correct it. Even if he cannot perfect his behavior or show that he's controlling his anger... Give him an opportunity to build his trust and re grow that mutual love/respect in other ways. If he is not concerned, then it is a toxic relationship to continue. You may be better to distance yourself to heal on your own and through the love of Allah (swt). Try to forgive him! Allah is merciful to those who are merciful to others. No human is perfect. We hurt each other knowing and unknowingly, but everyone grows up at a different speed and learns to treat others well:). [/quote]