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[onedarkangel_uk]

Assalaamu alaikum

Take a look at the first image.



In the middle is the person and the big circle is the world, the enviroment they are in. Now, in the world we live in today, many would do what we see in this first image. It is called the Comfort Zone. It is a place that is very deadly and negative because it renders a human being to look externally, outward, and stay in a boxed place due to their own choosing.

Here, in this place, the attitude is not Self Responsibility but rather, a world of fantasy and not reality. A place in which one takes appearances of others to judge, and that the world is the problem and they are there because of the world. Yes, we know the world around us is not perfect. Yes, we know some pray, some don't. Yes, we know some even those with Muslim names, beards or without beards, may not do what you think they do but what is of a crisis is this human being, in the middle of that circle, spends their time in looking at these people to judge, to question why don't they do this and that.

It becomes a time waster but most importantly - they will blame their bad results of their exams on life, they will blame their loss job on the boss, they will blame the lack of someone not knowing Islam on the people, or Imams, or elders, or anyone else. There is confusion here. There is an unsettled feeling of halting, not going forward. Though deep inside the solution is know, they will not step out of the comfort zone.

This is where I was years ago. You grow bitter, you spend your hours, your valuable time debating, you spend time consumed in a dark life of misery, and always, always you kind of look out there for the change. You look for the change in the system, in the education system, in the government, in people, in parents, elders, mosques, and it goes on and on. You blame everything under the sun, and though you know, deep inside, when you look in the mirror, what needs to change, you don't do it. The sad part is time goes by.

It goes by whether you do something or don't. Whether you pray or don't. Whether you take your deen seriously or you don't. Whether you get up one morning and decide to now put into action a plan, goal setting, a dream, a vision and STOP listening to people who tell you it's not going to work or your idea stinks or you don't.

There, right there, has and will always be a CHOICE to change. To begin the journey is not easy but nothing is. It takes a lot of energy to get the ball rolling but so does everything. Sometimes you start and all is going well, but due to the attitude of this person in the middle of the circle, they let worry, bills, what someone said, what the boss did, what the world is saying get to them and decline to a halt. Then they are consumed again, with more bitterness, or with more lack of result, and questioning what they are doing.

It is a vicious cycle and a cycle that can be stopped once and for all but it must come from you. Allah SWT will not help you till you make the first step. Till you turn your world upside down, till you turn it around, and you stretch to get out of that circle. And bear in mind, that when you do - don't even think many will support you BUT that won't matter if your vision, your faith, your belief, your destination, your ideals, your dream, your attitude to life and to what Allah SWT is solid.

Yes, in that inside circle, are lots of people you can sit with and complain, and debate on what is wrong with people, what is wrong with the Ummah, what is wrong with this and that. There is a lot of room, space for MEDIOCRITY but not SELF RESPONSIBILITY. In which a human being thinks like the image below:



You can see the difference with the second image. The person stretched and got out of that circle, the box of external influences and decided to control their enviroment. They didn't care what someone else thought of them but rather, took responsibility for their life. Look now, at what is in that circle, and just some of things that kept this person there.

You can see a lot of negative programming and activities which a lot of people do but also look at the lines that are around that circle. What are these external lines?

This is a magnet. This is where you have to still be cautious because these things are always there to drag you back in. It can happen by someone making excuses about bills, about wife, husband, friends, Muslim community, the world, or how life is bad, or how there is no jobs and judging people, and suddenly, you are drawn back in.

This person who steps out of that circle did a few things. They did the following:

1. They first admitted to themselves that they have a choice to change. They admitted the mistakes they are making and if they continue to do these mistakes then they will stay where they are. Nothing much will change.

2. They then controlled the enviroment they were in. They got tough with themselves and made sure, anyone says anything about anyone who is not there, they'd reply, "I don't want to hear about what someone else is done, what they are wearing or what they said. It's not our business." They stopped the disease of gossip, backbiting because they know it's poison to their own souls and mind, and who on earth wants to eat someone else's flesh? Do you? No. Then don't do it.

3. They changed their enviroment by also, associating with positive Muslims, learned people, and knew, that if they want to pass an exam, if they want to stop this lack of concentration and lack of planning, then they need to find people who are like minded, and work together as a team. helping each other to succeed. It doesn't just have to be about exams either but a life journey till they die. Brotherhood or sisterhood, together, as one, to help each other excel:

1. With Iman.

2. With Studying their deen.

3. With social aspect of life and being active to help all communities, getting involve to change instead being inside of the circle to look who will do the job instead.

4. With success in regards to exams, life, jobs etc. Helping each other, scouring for jobs for their brother or sister. Seeing what is needed for their bro or sister to get that course, or job.

5. Reminding each other using wisdom, courtesy, non judgemental and with brotherhood love.

6. To be there for each other, always and make the bond strong. To put each other's brothers first than themselves, or put sister before themselves.

7. That mastermind team, where they keep growing their brotherhood, their team to a team of wealth, skills so all can achieve what is in their hearts, together with no spite, no jelousy but rather the motto should be "I am here, to help you with your dream for the sake of Allah SWT and it is my joy to see you succeed. It is so."

8. They'd read regurarly, to develop their iman and also their mind, hearts and soul. That they are brave to quash any bicker, gossip that tries to come into their circle.

9. They all made their own plan, set goals, and broke those goals into weekly, monthly, yearly and put actions that needs to be done everyday and went and did it.

10. Failure is a process of success and so, they do and leave the rest to Allah SWT. Whether they achieve or not, is not as great as doing it and never quitting and having faith in Allah SWT. The journey is of great important, the vital destination is the seeking of love of Allah SWT.

11. They counsel each other, listen more and talk less. Seeing what is their bro is going through and finding a way to help.

They made a choice, they changed, they went out of the circle, they took responsibility for their own lives. There is no "what ifs" but rather, "LET'S GET IT DONE NOW, TODAY!"

They don't look at what someone else did, what someone else didn't do or what someone else doesn't know but rather, take it on board to do it, to learning it and to take the lead.

It is far better to be outside that circle than inside. Far better but it takes one to make a SOLID DECISION to change. Do it not for people. Do it, not even for family. Do it for yourself. Even better, do it so Allah SWT loves you. Yes, do it for Him and that to me is the best approach of all.

Change your life, to succeed, so you can raise the banner of Islam in all you do. Show in your smiles, in your actions, in your education, in your love for each other, in your firmness to truth, justice, and in helping your fellow mankind and all communities. Give as much as you can to change the lives of others instead of judging, gossip and idle our hours, days, weeks, months and years on what is wrong in the world.

It is really about "what you going to do?" It is easy to sit and talk, write articles. ANYONE CAN WRITE AN ARTICLE! ANYONE. But not anyone will change themselves and go out in world to do good and IMPACT the LIVES of others.

Two paths to choose and again, your choice but let no man or woman, put anyone blame to God Himself. He gave your a brain, He created you to read. He created you to use the pen. He gave you arms, legs and ears, tongue. All of these have a duty to do God's bidding. To do good. To go out of the circle and make it happen.

You are not poor. Even if you didn't have a house. Lived in the streets as I did. Even I, who once lived in the streets, homeless, would look at the reflection of myself in those shops, as the lamp post light shines some reflect and I saw my hands, face, body, hair, beard, and then I looked up, and saw tyhe sky, stars, and the universe. And said..

"I am wealthy beyond that I could have ever imagined. If you exist, show me the way. I need your help. Tell me who YOU are?" And He showed me the way. He told me who He is in the Holy Qur'an one miracalous day.

Not all of us born in Muslim families that pray or even know of their deen. be grateful if that is the case for you.

It is not what you haven't got that will take you anywhere. It is rather what Allah SWT has already given you, that will take you as far as you want by His will. He won't give you more if you abuse that which you already have. Change, use what you have and watch his bounties come forth, to wonder:

"Where did all this come from? Where has all these bounties have been hiding."

They were right before you but you were so in that circle, clouded with hate, judgement, gossip, bitterness, lonliness, lack of direction, frustration, that you couldn't see His amazing gifts.

The audio CD will be uploaded soon so people can download and save and share, so we can inspire each other.

Wassalaam

Edited by onedarkangel_uk, 02 June 2008 - 01:06 AM.

[-tawakkul-]

Walaykumsalaams

wow Mash'Allah really beneficial post...with some very good and practical steps we can all apply. I wanted to ask 3 questions...

1. How do you change your habbits?

2. What should you do if you feel you cannot control the environment you are in, for example, when you have to spend atleast 7 hours of your day entertaining guests! Seems like a waste of a day but you have no choice because others will get offended blah blah...and also what if people get offended that you don't want to associate with them? I know we can advice them but then again you may offend them etc?

3. I've asked this before I think...CONSISTENCY? How?

Jazakallahu khair.

[Mo3tasima]

^ Cool questions

jazak allahu kheir br, once again good stufff

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9. They all made their own plan, set goals, and broke those goals into weekly, monthly, yearly and put actions that needs to be done everyday and went and did it.

I find planning, setting goals, timetables (hourly , daily etc) hardly ever work - and its just a waste of time thinking about it and writing plans down- so i stopped planning. However, how would u suggest one ensures they stick to their timetables, plans etc?

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It is really about "what you going to do?" It is easy to sit and talk, write articles. ANYONE CAN WRITE AN ARTICLE! ANYONE. But not anyone will change themselves and go out in world to do good and IMPACT the LIVES of others.

great point

ws
RaS

[onedarkangel_uk]

Assalaamu alikum

Insha-Allah, I will answer and reply to the questions very soon.

I will say this regarding planning, writing goals down. There is a system to follow. Break those systems, the rule and it will not work.

It's called ACTION, consistent ACTION, following what you have written and only reason why someone doesn't do apply the rules are:

1. They let life distraction them.

2. They do not really believe it works in first place.

3. They do not follow the list they have written down.

One can write as many plans as they want, goal setting but the first rule is believing in them and DOING THEM. They're not going to leap off the page and do the actions for you.

Goals, planning are there to help you see clearly, and show you what is a PRIORITY and then it is for the PERSON to do them. Taking action to do them no matter what.

If they do not do them and get distracted then they will not work. Remember, the person who has not done so before, will have negative habits. Things such as:

A) Speaking negative. You may not open your mouth but deep inside your mind, your speaking to yourself, saying, "THEY WON'T WORK," or, "I'LL TRY." Trying isn't a decision. Doing it and sticking to it no matter what is a DECISION. A solid one at that.

B) Everyday, when one gets up, one must have those plans in focus. It must be the centre of their life. It must not be a whim, in which they wrote plans down and acted upon them and that's it. They must speak their goals, affirm it to themselves loud and in silent. Doing so, reminds you what is prioity, what NEEDS TO BE DONE, and why. Not doing so, will get you to really drift from your goal and suddenly you don't do the action and stop.

C. Patiance is what many lack. Remember, years of negative programming doesn't take a day to go right. Result doesn't happen in a day. One must understand that PLANNING, writing them down, GOAL SETTING and apply action is a step forward to PREPARATION.

This preparation gears you to get ready. It prepares you to be disciplined. It prepares you for the success to come. And when one prepares, and gets that discipline, with or without quick result, and they have VISION and KNOW success is about PREPARATION - then suddenly, what they have done all this time, shows in results. It starts to happen.

PREPARE YOURSELF to BE THE PERSON YOU WANT TO BE and when time is right, then THE SUCCESS WILL FOLOW by Allah SWT will.

To be a LEADER doesn't mean, one needs followers. To be a leader, one must shape themselves to be with and PREPARE themselves to lead those who will come. Our Lord, will not give 10 people for you and I to lead, if you and I cannot lead ourselves.

So, do not look too much in result but in shaping that stone, into a DIAMOND. When it becomes a DIAMOND it suddenly has value. It takes skill to shape that stone to a DIAMOND. One mistake, the DIAMOND will be worthless.

So Patiance, Sabr is a must.

Wassalaam

Edited by onedarkangel_uk, 05 June 2008 - 05:00 PM.

[onedarkangel_uk]

Assalaamu alaikum

I have edited above reply a bit more, and breaking up to understand certain things in why writing down plans is important and why, and how it works.

[onedarkangel_uk]

I will like to add one thing, which is of great importance, to simplify things:

One day a man wanted to break this big massive rock. So, he got his tool, which was like a steel cutter hammer. He started to hit it. He kept going for hours. It seemed that he only did a dent to it and nothing else.

The next day, he went to that rock again and again, he hit at it. It was hard work but he was consistent because the following days, weeks, he kept doing it. He began to think:

"Ah, I think it's not going to break. It's going to take me ages."

But as he sat in his cottage, he thought, "NO, I'll go again tomorrow."

That day came, and he went to that big rock and hit it just ONE time and there it was - it cracked and then split open.

The question for everyone. Was it that one hit that split the rock?

No, it was the many, hundreds or more hits he continued to hit on that rock. Those many hits he saw only a dent shaping the rock. Those many hits where he thought he wasn't doing much good but he KEPT GOING and that final hit did the job.

That's how writing your plans down, goal setting and speaking to your self and remembering what your goals are everyday, and your reason, and ACTION.

Keep doing it, be disciplined, and that final hit will come where the rock will split.

[-tawakkul-]

Walaykumsalaams

Good posts Mash'Allah, I think the hardest part is getting into the routine of doing the things you want to do or have to do, then it just becomes a part of and it helps you Alhamdullilah. I have found that the first step is hardest to take but once you do, SubhanAllah you think to yourself "why didn't I do this earlier"? I like the writing down - Goals thing....because it feels good crossing the goals out once you have achieved them. Keep the posts coming Insh'Allah.

Edited by sista afsana, 05 June 2008 - 05:23 PM.

[onedarkangel_uk]

sista afsana, on Jun 5 2008, 05:22 PM, said:

Walaykumsalaams

Good posts Mash'Allah, I think the hardest part is getting into the routine of doing the things you want to do or have to do, then it just becomes a part of and it helps you Alhamdullilah. I have found that the first step is hardest to take but once you do, SubhanAllah you think to yourself "why didn't I do this earlier"? I like the writing down - Goals thing....because it feels good crossing the goals out once you have achieved them. Keep the posts coming Insh'Allah.

Jazak Allah Khairun.

Yes, true - the hardest part is getting into the routine and if one does it solid for 30-90 days, it becomes an ongoing habit. An investment, a skill to have.

Now, here is a question - HOW FOR SURE, 100% CAN I KEEP DOING THIS? And have PROGRESS?

Are you ready? Here's the answer which I have mentioned before..

MENTORSHIP and Create a MASTER MIND TEAM!

Having someone who is successful, a Mentor, who you can meet once a week, someone you trust, someone who is where you want to be, someone who will listen, and help you, with seeing your plans, your goals, and you are in consistent touch with on the Phone.

Now, I run businesses. I have a mentor and I am on the phone with him about four times a week. And we meet once every two week, to see the progress. To see what I need to focus on more. To see where I maybe going wrong. To hear some suggestions, to share ideas, or challenge I may have.

This is VALUABLE for your success.

So find a mentor. Someone who you can bounce ideas with. Someone who inspires you. Some who you respect and NOT SOMEONE who has all ego and talks down to you but someone, who cares for your success. Someone and I mean, someone who has succeeded on the very career or business or studies you wish to enter and succeed in.

Now, isn't it obvious, that if they have been there, done it, that they can help you to see the pitfalls? Of course they can but here is where it really works.

Everytime you meet, you have your plan, your goals on paper. Also your results. Also what challenges you face and questions. Don't waste time just socialising. Mentors do not have time for little chatter. They are successful people and want to help those who are serious and when a decision is made, they go and do it and come back with the results.

Now, it doesn't matter if you fail. They don't knock you down but they will SAY TO YOU THE TRUTH and what has gone wrong, so you correct it and move forward!

A MENTOR - please get one or you will be in trouble. Get a mentor as fast as you can. There maybe organisations who can help you with this. Or go to your college and ask about it. Or if you're in the UNiversity, studying, then ask them if they can help to allocate you a mentor.

Trust me - it will help you in the long run and keep you on track, and CONSISTENT.

Finally, suggestion number two - find good friends. Create a team, a MASTERMIND. It's sole purpose is you are all going to use your skills to help each other to succeed. Be serious with this purpose. And let not it be a time for gossip but to solve each other's challenges. You will see how it will work wonders and the awesome benefits you will recieve from creating a MASTER MIND TEAM.

If you want to sum up master mind, or it's definition THEN it is this:

A mastermind group is a group of like-minded people who work not only on their own goals but help you to succeed in yours as well. When the people are like-minded and knowledgeable, the "third mind" comes into the conversation and ideas you never thought possible will be revealed as possible.

Now here are some tips, broken down regarding this issue:

1. Write down what you wish to achieve, yourself.

2. This goal may be to have people hold each other accountable or it may be to create a new business venture to create a specific minimum of income. It may even be to create a non-profit venture of some sort. Or to achieve top marks in an exam. It is important that you clearly know what your own intention is from the beginning.

3. Begin to attend business meetings or if your a student, go to meetings regarding your subject, where you get to observe the participation of others. Are they consistent? Do they move the conversation forward? Do they have skills that may make a difference for what you wish to create? Do they express similar goals without having heard yours?

4. Look for people who are successful in what you wish to create. This will bring velocity to your success.

5. Be sure to include people who are [b]at higher levels of success than you are[/b]. They will be eager to participate when they see your clear intention and your total commitment to the intention.

Remember HIGHER LEVELS OF SUCCESS THAN YOU ARE! This is very important. It will stretch your thinking and get you to stretch a little more. You will learn what you cannot learn from mediocre people.

Edited by onedarkangel_uk, 05 June 2008 - 09:06 PM.

[-tawakkul-]

:jazakAllah:

[Mo3tasima]

jazak allahu kheir akhee

^ i have my own mentors alhamdulilah a very good idea mA

2 things:

- sometimes when i finally mobilise myself, and begin to study- i find myself reading, but reading passively. Upon analysing what the reason might be, i realised that my mind is programmed to think "ill look back onto this later, just read quickly over it now" . I sometimes question, why i dont study as well as i do 'on the last min' < and i know that part of the reason is the fact that my mind tells me "there still is time" when virtually, there isnt.

Although i understand, that the runner who trains 5 miles per day for weeks before a race, will do much better than one who suddenly trains 20 miles the day before the race - i consistently fail to put this concept into action!

so how do i ensure i dont passively read, but rather retain most of the information in my memory while reading? how do i get my mind to understand that it needs to be done 'NOW'. Also, how does one, defeat procrastination, once and for all? (how do you discipline youself to avoid distraction, by distraction i mean picking up a book about islam and leaving your othr books idley watching.. etc etc)

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Btw br, this reminds me, have you heard of shk Muhammad Alshareefs:

- www.discoverUlife.com
- www.successinislam.com

Tell us your thoughts iA
jazaks
wassalam
RaS

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Edited by Mo3tasima, 08 June 2008 - 11:21 PM.

[onedarkangel_uk]

Mo3tasima, on Jun 8 2008, 11:17 PM, said:

jazak allahu kheir akhee

^ i have my own mentors alhamdulilah a very good idea mA

2 things:

- sometimes when i finally mobilise myself, and begin to study- i find myself reading, but reading passively. Upon analysing what the reason might be, i realised that my mind is programmed to think "ill look back onto this later, just read quickly over it now" . I sometimes question, why i dont study as well as i do 'on the last min' < and i know that part of the reason is the fact that my mind tells me "there still is time" when virtually, there isnt.

Although i understand, that the runner who trains 5 miles per day for weeks before a race, will do much better than one who suddenly trains 20 miles the day before the race - i consistently fail to put this concept into action!

so how do i ensure i dont passively read, but rather retain most of the information in my memory while reading? how do i get my mind to understand that it needs to be done 'NOW'. Also, how does one, defeat procrastination, once and for all?

_________

Btw br, this reminds me, have you heard of shk Muhammad Alshareefs:

- www.discoverUlife.com
- www.successinislam.com

Tell us your thoughts iA
jazaks
wassalam
RaS

<typo>

Assalaamu alaikum WarahmatAllah

Barak Allah Feek. I will reply to your questions Insha-Allah but first, regarding the shk. No, haven't heard of him or his works.

Ok, well, let us go to down the crunch of things.

We do what we BELIEVE. Now, that may sound harsh to many of my fellow Muslims but the truth is - ACTION radiates from one's solid belief system. Hence, that belief system is rooted towards one thing - PHILOSPHY and the mental attitude towards ones life. Even though one is a Muslim, even though they know consciously of the precious of time, there, right at the back of ones mind, is the negative programming, that says, "erm, well, I can do it tomorow." And tomorrow becomes a week. And the week becomes a month and so on.

So, since we know, that within our subconsciou mind is OUR TRUE SELF which resurfaces into ACTION or LACK OF action, we then have to train it. To do so, takes work, it takes consistency and it takes one thing:

1. DESIRE! BURNING DESIRE. And this burning DESIRE takes us to..

2. The VSIUALISATION of the RESULT we DESIRE. That we see it in our minds, and so much so, it drives us to..

3. CONSISTENT SELF TALK on the result, WITH....

3. ACTION.

But wait, there is a problem. Yes, a major flaw because the person may say he desires to achieve this or that, but doesn't do it. He or she may say they want that grade A but doesn't strive for it.

So where is the missing link? Here is the missing link..

A. What does your mind say about SUCCESS? WEALTH? MONEY?

Does it conjure up greed? Does it conjure up trouble? Does it bring paint a picture than those who are going to be or are rich get it by wrong doing? What is your mental picture of success?

This has stopped so many of the students I used to mentor until I BEAT THE IT OUT OF THEM by getting them to write down exactly what negative program has been instilled in them. Then I find..

1. They think God made us to be poor.

2. That we won't have God's mercy if we are rich.

3. That we will sin more if we have more money.

4. That, deep down, they feel unworthy of the success.

5. That they feel, its impossible and the picuture reveals itself as they QUESTION who THEY ARE!

7. Feeling of anger.

8. Feeling of Resentment.

9. A block in their mind filled with jelousy or what someone said to them years ago.

You'd be surprised what you find when one is truthful to themselves and yes, they can stop someone to move forward!

And so on, and these, are embedded within the conscious mind and it is this reason, why many so called Muslims and Non-Muslims cheat, lie or have the tendency to want to achieve but the action does not flow with it. They think they covered every angle but they forget one simple thing:

The angle of their Philosphy, the Belief system that is right witin their subconscious mind. Many as well do not succeed, do not plan, do not follow all the plans they write, the goals they put down, because subsconsciously, they fear...SUCCESS. They think when success comes, they will need to do MORE. Not so. I grown to success and I now do less. Though it seems I do more, it seems I have plenty of time, and I write books every week, novels, while running diverse businesses and my house is full of people to mentor, and travel to do business.

But what they don't see is I have sorted my belief system, I am always evaluating myself everyday. I am always aware of MY THOUGHTS and I QUESTION then.

Now, I like to ask you to do one simple thing and you SHALL FIND YOUR ANSWER as CLEAR as day. As clear as you look in the mirror when you get up in the morning. I like you to:

1. LISTEN to your THOUGHTS in your head

Yes, really listen when you KNOW you have to do some work. And hear what it says. If it says, "Oh, I'll leave it for tomorrow," then ask why is it you think that? You have to really reflect on why and this will take you to the ROOT of the BELIEF SYSTEM that is within your subconscious mind and which dilutes your heart, and which then stops the action of moving forward.

Listen and ask, "what do you feel?" Now, ask, "why do you feel this way." Ah, now the answer is coming because NOW YOU are LISTENING to the FEEBACK. The same feedback our Lord has asked us to listen to.

Procrastination

There are certain things one must do to deal with this and it starts with the following:

1. Do NOT delay in writing down what you want to achieve.

2. Does this, that you wish to achieve gives you a BURNING PULSATING DESIRE? If not, then you WILL NOT SUCCEED IN IT. EVER! Mark my words. YOU WILL NOT SUCCEED IN IT because when it is NOT a BURNING, PULSATING DESIRE then excuses will stop you. Whether it is illness, whether it is lack of finances, whether tiredness, whether "Oh, I just haven't time" when reality is, - there is no difference between poor person and rich EXCEPT their THINKING. Both have 24 hours a day and it is how they THINK and APPLY that makes the difference.

2. To IMMEDIATLEY write down your plan when your BURNING DESIRE is KNOWN.

3. To make goals from that PLAN.

4. Now, you must make a DECISION between you and God Himself and a SOLID decision to not back out.

If you were to put me in one hand and a solider and I mean, a MILITARY SOLDIER in another, you will NOT FIND any difference between me and that soldier except he has a gun and I have my brain and the power of the pen.

What we do have which is the same is DISCIPLINE, ORGANISED, FACE FEAR RIGHT IN THE EYE, AND....we get up and without fail, do the tasks at hand. For if we miss what we're suppose to do, then I put danger in the life of others. Yes, my lack of action causes my family to suffer, bills don't get paid, and I cannot give more to chairity instead of just a few percent that average give.

And someone OWNS ME and tells me what time to get up, what I am worth, and when I can have a holiday and so on.

Two worlds exist - the one where if you make the mistake of procrastinating, then you shall be in the whims of others and they will forever push you around with their stupidity of who earns more. Or the other world - you succeed to be your own person and make God proud of you, and not think wealth is some curse, or money is evil. Which I may say, is another negative programming Muslims today have.

Hence, how DO YOU DEFEAT PROCRASTINATION?

YOU DEFEAT YOURSELF, the other side of you, the one who chats to you in your head, the one who whispers to you, the one who tells you that tomorrow is another day. You win the fight against your own demons.

That's what success is really about. It's not money. Anyone says it is, WILL NEVER SUCCEED. It is about shaping, molding, developing, fighting against yourself, until you find the DIAMOND that Allah SWT put inside of you.

And that means, you need to create a PROCESS. A SYSTEM TO FOLLOW AND APPLY. A process that WORKS FOR YOU! So what works for you to make sure you do what you say you'll do?

You fight! And you cannot fight what you do not know. Hence, do you really know who you are? Do you know your weakness? Do you know what makes those weakness? Do you work to amend those weakness and the voice inside? Do you dig right back into the root and realise, that deep within your subconscious mind is the program that is stopping you to move forward.

There is a saying:

"If you do not conquer the self, then you shall be conquered."

So, if that is the case, then why do people procrastinate? Is it because of lack of management? No. It is part of it but No.

You procrastinate due to EMPTIONS. Doing these things you delay to do, gives off an emotion, a feeling you don't want to feel. That EMOTION comes from somewhere. It's called THOUGHTS. The THOUGHTS come from somewhere. Where? That's what you should be asking. Where did or is this thought coming from and why.

Wassalaam

Edited by onedarkangel_uk, 09 June 2008 - 12:11 AM.

[Mo3tasima]

Barak Allahu feek akhee

I mentioned the shk Muhammad Alshareef, as he too gives talks about ones belief system (BS) being the root of ones actions, and a determinant of success or failure. Very much reminds me of ur posts, mA. He calls it 'Recurring world-class inspiration'.

He used a metaphor that life is a 'garbage bin' - full of trash, bad programmings and useless things. To be successful one must:

1) Throw out the rubbish in their life first ie. stop the poison
2) Detox- wash it out
3) nourish it

^ i kinda get the gist of wat he means, though not so much the third point.

I can give a lecture about this goal-setting, goal-reaching, drive for success stuff - however, the difficulty in the task comes in applying the words yourself.

My high standards, leave me harshly self-assessing - never do i celebreate mediocrity. Wa alhamdulilah rabbi al3alameen, a reminder is always great.

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The angle of their Philosphy, the Belief system that is right witin their subconscious mind. Many as well do not succeed, do not plan, do not follow all the plans they write, the goals they put down, because subsconsciously, they fear...SUCCESS. They think when success comes, they will need to do MORE. Not so. I grown to success and I now do less. Though it seems I do more, it seems I have plenty of time, and I write books every week, novels, while running diverse businesses and my house is full of people to mentor, and travel to do business.

Br, is time not a barrier? a limiting factor? as well as, exhaustion. How do u control these points? (for eg. do u plan ur day hourly, min by min eg. "i will be on 7cgen forums for only 10 mins then go off) (do you multi-task; which often decreases quality because full concentration/focus isnt applied?)

jazaks
ws

[onedarkangel_uk]

Mo3tasima, on Jun 9 2008, 01:22 AM, said:

Barak Allahu feek akhee

I mentioned the shk Muhammad Alshareef, as he too gives talks about ones belief system (BS) being the root of ones actions, and a determinant of success or failure. Very much reminds me of ur posts, mA. He calls it 'Recurring world-class inspiration'.

He used a metaphor that life is a 'garbage bin' - full of trash, bad programmings and useless things. To be successful one must:

1) Throw out the rubbish in their life first ie. stop the poison
2) Detox- wash it out
3) nourish it

^ i kinda get the gist of wat he means, though not so much the third point.

I can give a lecture about this goal-setting, goal-reaching, drive for success stuff - however, the difficulty in the task comes in applying the words yourself.

My high standards, leave me harshly self-assessing - never do i celebreate mediocrity. Wa alhamdulilah rabbi al3alameen, a reminder is always great.

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The angle of their Philosphy, the Belief system that is right witin their subconscious mind. Many as well do not succeed, do not plan, do not follow all the plans they write, the goals they put down, because subsconsciously, they fear...SUCCESS. They think when success comes, they will need to do MORE. Not so. I grown to success and I now do less. Though it seems I do more, it seems I have plenty of time, and I write books every week, novels, while running diverse businesses and my house is full of people to mentor, and travel to do business.

Br, is time not a barrier? a limiting factor? as well as, exhaustion. How do u control these points? (for eg. do u plan ur day hourly, min by min eg. "i will be on 7cgen forums for only 10 mins then go off) (do you multi-task; which often decreases quality because full concentration/focus isnt applied?)

jazaks
ws

Assalaamu alaikum

The third point the shk means regarding nourish it is as follows and a parrable so you get the just of it.

You have a glass of water and each time you speak negative, a drop of black ink falls on the surface of the water. Then if you sit with people who gossip, then another drop of the black ink. It is now getting darker. Then it is stirred with another flow of black ink, which is people speaking to you on what you "CANNOT" achieve and the misconceptios on their flawed thinking of what affirmation is when in reality, affirmation is about BELIEF, FAITH and speaking what you want without doubt.

Without doubt to us as Muslims means, NO DOUBT WHATSOEVER on the POWER OF FAITH IN OUR LORD. Hence, this is where confusion lies in people who read books on subsconsious mind, on affirmation, on self talk and pretend they know what they speaking about and talk on how we cannot know if we will achieve. It is about FAITH and faith alone can move ones life forward.

So, you must empty that glass but in reality, you cannot because the garbage is now recorded in your mind. Something I did a seminar on, with quiet a few shaykhs attending. About 8 years ago, in which I explained, the way to do it is by filling that glass with more water (positive knowledge), right association, outspoken and silent talk to oneself on their belief, their dreams, their goals. Your words are also prayer, and He hears them.

You keep on filling that glass with water till your glass goes back to it's colour but remember, it will still have in "our reality" some negative and that is the life we live. A magnet which we call evil, which we call bad, which we call sins, which we call whisperar, is always there to entice, and so that filling of the cup, that controlling the enviroment, that continued reading, and self development must continue till we die.

Nourishment must be complete by ACTION. Hence, the completIon of the cycle. None of these can work alone but work together as one. But it must start from the root which is BELIEF and that BELIEF can be passed down to us by our parents who have their own belief system, and on what they can or can't achieve, and we can if we are not careful adopt such limitations. Or they can come from friends, relatives, teachers, or school life and the way we percieve our place in this world.

And by the BELIEF on how we see ourselves in this world will determine how we shape our character, our personality.

Regarding APPLICATION of goals
Unfortunatley, this is where it seperates men from leaders, leaders from pioneers and pioneers from Visionaries. It is application.

I feel, the best way is to start small. Think of a small thing you wish to achieve and it burns you and it is really something you want to achieve. Start small and design a plan and do not make it so complex but simple. Then create tasks and run with it. Just do it.

You see, one can look for secrets, but the secret to an amazing recipe is not really the flavours or the recipe. It is the chef himself, the passion, the love of doing. You must then search, pounder, reflect on that which you would SO LOVE TO DO for the rest of your life. And I strongly believe success is this:

To do that worthwhile dream, in which you do what you love, and it helps yourself but also mankind. In doing so, you do what you love, you do so with such eagerness, PASSION, that all you think about is that dream and you seek God, Allah the Most High for the success, while implementing the rules of the principles.

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Br, is time not a barrier? a limiting factor? as well as, exhaustion. How do u control these points? (for eg. do u plan ur day hourly, min by min eg. "i will be on 7cgen forums for only 10 mins then go off) (do you multi-task; which often decreases quality because full concentration/focus isnt applied?)

I plan monthly. Then I break that monthly plan into weekly. And I break that weekly plan into daily tasks. Any I miss, I move it up to the next day but making sure, I do not make it a habit.

On my daily tasks, I go for the most difficult tasks first. I eat the big challenge first and then work to the easy ones. If you knew how much time is spent by people who are busy on things that are not serious, that are not really need to be done now, because they lack discipline to do the big tasks first, you'd be surprised but it is this that gets me run circles round PHD students and other degree workers and CEOs.

I am not one with degree or any qualifications which gives hope to anyone else, to understand - by following simple, basic rules of success, enables one to succeed better than others and ACHIEVE MORE.

TIME FACTOR
I am always conscious of time but I live, as though I was already dead. Meaning, I am never distracted, I am focused, and I do a lot because, and here is the magic word...PRIORITISE!

Anything you do, ask yourself this question - I know what I want to do, I know what I want to achieve, but is this task, I got down, and I am going to do, will get me closer to m goal or am I doing it to impress myself, or procrastinate, or to avoide my responsibility to just dig in?

If you know where you are going, if you know what you want, if you have seen and visualised CRYSTAL CLEAR where you want to be, and worked backwards to where you are, to see what challenges you will face, the solutions to put in place, the actions, tasks you need to do daily, weekly, monthly - THEN you will know what NOT TO DO and rid of the tasks that waste your time but make one look busy, and concentrate on that which is more productive and will get you closer to your goal.

My boost, my drive, not only comes from my passion in what I am doing, not only because of my dream but also, I only have to look at how mediocre peoeple live, and what many elders ended up with, and that alone scared the living daylights out of me to not do what they have done, or doing right now. That for me is enough to not want to be a slave.

My father worked all his life and what did he get back from the boss? A watch. A damn watch! If it was me I would have wringed the boss's kneck but then again, it's not the boss to blame but people's own folly who become ridicolous in being so loyal to a company that's doesn't belong to them or their family, and to even without any shame speak and say, "Oh we make computers." And there is no "WE." The company is not owned by this person who says, "WE."

He is only working there and the real "WE" is the boss. Who can fire the person whenever he or she feels like it.

I do ask people to study, I do ask people to gain knowledge but I do not ask people to be stupid and think their loyalty will be paid back with loyalty by whoever they work with. Times have changed, inflation rising, and what I said 5 years ago and warned people of, is now happening today.

These principles, will help anyone who applies but will also make ones life miserable if they follow them half heartedly. Nothing worse than a human being who knows they can do better, and have the will power to do so, and don't, and find themselves being caught by their own lack of actions, implementation of the simple and yet powerful principles of success.

Wassalaam

Edited by onedarkangel_uk, 09 June 2008 - 03:13 AM.

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onedarkangel_uk, on Jun 9 2008, 03:10 AM, said:

My father worked all his life and what did he get back from the boss? A watch. A damn watch! If it was me I would have wringed the boss's kneck but then again, it's not the boss to blame but people's own folly who become ridicolous in being so loyal to a company that's doesn't belong to them or their family, and to even without any shame speak and say, "Oh we make computers." And there is no "WE." The company is not owned by this person who says, "WE."

He is only working there and the real "WE" is the boss. Who can fire the person whenever he or she feels like it.

I do ask people to study, I do ask people to gain knowledge but I do not ask people to be stupid and think their loyalty will be paid back with loyalty by whoever they work with.

This sounds exactly like what my brother in law said to me when I started work. I'm finding it hard not to get attached to the firm I work for, and they (obviously) encourage the loyalty etc.

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These principles, will help anyone who applies but will also make ones life miserable if they follow them half heartedly. Nothing worse than a human being who knows they can do better, and have the will power to do so, and don't, and find themselves being caught by their own lack of actions, implementation of the simple and yet powerful principles of success.

Sometimes some of the stuff you write (the quote above for instance) makes me uneasy about where I am or what I'm doing and really makes me think I need to get a grip. Probably a good thing right? I don't comment on your posts as often as I'd like to but JazakAllah bro.

[onedarkangel_uk]

It is best, when working to recognise, that they will expect loyalty but they are not loyal to you. Because when the shove comes to push, when they time to make cuts in workers, when they need to please shareholders, and when they need to make profits, and find people in other countries that will do job but for less money - their loyalty to the workers go out of the window.

That's the reality in the corporate world and to not recognise the reality of it, can definitely catch up in the end.

As I said once to a friend - "get real, use your boss, the way he is using you. I don't mean in a bad way but what I mean is save your monies. Don't go crazy with it. Live even under your means, so you can oneday invest either in your own business, or either in someone who has talente but drive him with your vision, and so on. That way, you don't put all your eggs in one basket.

If you do, then remember, what happens to those before you. 100% from one source is deadly. The rule is to move up by making sure you move from the E quadrant which is employment to the S Quadrant, which is Self employed. Then move from S to the I Quadrant, and 'I' Quadrant is Investing. And gradually move from the 'I' towards the ''B' Quadrant and the 'B' Quadrant isn't for sissies. It's not for weak minded people or people who love recognition or quitting or want some love.

When you are at the level, then money challenges don't come into it anymore. No one can tell you what to do. Your in control and not ruled by the conditions of finances or people. Nor by the boss. Nor by office politics. That's the place where many want to be in but do not go for it. They want to but they live in fear. They lack discipline and they cannot give what it needs.

The main thing is to see reality for what it is and not deny the fact, that the boss can at ANY TIME fire a person. That's how it is. That is the reality. So, it is better to not give that person a chance but to work hard but smart, and save the monies, read books on self development, prepare your mind, and keep your eyes open to the feed back Allah SWT gives you.

And one more thing, "nothing is too good to be true." That's what mediocre people think. Nothing. So if God shows you something, an opportunity, then do not get advice from people who are broke, in a job and not where you want to be in life. Rather, study the opportunitty yourself and do not listen to failures. Failures can only teach you to FAIL!

Even if the person is a doctor, a lawyer, a hot shot sales person - if they are not where you want to be, then their advice is useless. Find the mentors, the real leaders who are moving forward. So, if you want to start up in business, in your field, learn about it, use your time now to do so, because running a business isn't so big. It sound daunting but it's not.

Whatever way you go, be careful of who you give your loyalty too. The boss cares only of one thing - himself, his profits, his company name, and his family. The rest is just an illusion. If they cared so much, they'd make sure, you also get some profits from the company every month. This gives the work ownership and satisfaction that he is part of the company and they'll work harder because now, it's their company too.

They do this in Japan and that's why Japan is kicking and making it happen in the business and technology world.