[*F*]

^^ I third that

I voted yes by accident

I meant to say No

[SUHORA]

it doesn't let me vote

[unknown]

now im thinking if i even want to get marid....women cant even read properly :icon_smile_lol:

[roohiya]

bro, i clearly voted no...whys there 5 on yes?!

[FlagBearer]

Everyone seems marriage mad. must be something in the water _

It had been made halaal by Allaah, so i can't make something He has decreed lawful, haraam. There is so much reward for reviving a forgotten sunnah(i forget the actual hadeeth).
Whether i would or not though, is a COMPLETELY different story. I couldn't say now as i'm not in that position.Who knows?There are sp many things that could change my mind.
But if i had to answer in terms of 'right now', i'd probably say no. i'm a girl, jealousy is in my DNA.

also, i think brothers must make sure they understand that having more than one wife isn't easy. But i have the utmost respect for those that are in a polygonous marriage in which the husband treats all the wives with equal fairness.

by the way, i thought i'd point out that the corect term to use would actually be polygany(with 'n'), as polygamy is when a women is allowed more than one husband as well.

wassalaam.

[roohiya]

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It had been made halaal by Allaah, so i can't make something He has decreed lawful, haraam. There is so much reward for reviving a forgotten sunnah(i forget the actual hadeeth).

sis, i wasnt implying it should be haraam, hell no...but directed as a personal question, i cant...wont.

each to their own.

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by the way, i thought i'd point out that the corect term to use would actually be polygany(with 'n'), as polygamy is when a women is allowed more than one husband as well.

really? wow.

[unknown]

the poll is all fixed now.

the_unknown, on Feb 10 2007, 11:54 PM, said:

now im thinking if i even want to get marid....women cant even read properly :icon_smile_lol:

that was a big lie from me, sorry!! how can any bro say that he dosnt wanna have a 2nd/3rd/4th wife when there are so many wonderful sisters in the world

[roohiya]

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how can any bro say that he dosnt wanna have a 2nd/3rd/4th wife

because one is enough.

[Umm Khadejah]

My dear sisters, know that Allah knows us better than we know ourselves, He gave us rules for our own benifit, if He says a man is allowed to marry more than once then He knows the reasoning behind this.
Imagine a sis, with children, no husband (divorced, widowed etc) and is by herself. If your husband loved you dearly, but more than that loved Allah and saw this sis and the struggle she went through and streached out his hand to help her and you, his wife supported this heartful decision,think baout the reward you would receive. Not only that, your husband would have to work more to support this wife, think of his reward. Think of her children, who might have grown up and strayed from the path cause of that father figure they never had, but because you opened up your heart, those children became amongst the most pious, think of their heaven.
A woman who goes against her jealousy is her jihaad.

We marry for the sake of Allah, it is an act of worship. You get amrried to acheive jannah, to help your husband acheive jannah and this should be done in any posible way.
As the Prophet (pbuh) once said to his Companion: “By Allah! Whosoever gives up something for the sake of Allah, Allah will replace it with something better than it!" If you remain patient in this world, Allah will bless you with joys in ways you could never imagine!

Well sisters ,we aint really giving up our husband, but think of it like this, we will be the queens of heaven one day Inshallah and when we have our palace in jannah we will look back and say ermm..well lots of things, good things Inshallah.
Having said all of this, brothers need to know that it is NOT easy. Allah has blessed men with a sense of ghairah. A good jealousy. Women have it too. Men get paranoid if another man looks at his wife in any way (which isn't a bad thing) but no man could imagine sharing his wife with another, it would be out of the question. Brothers need to think about it cause if he aint fair to each of them, then, when he is crossing the siraat, then one shoulder will be heavier than the other. It aint an easy job, specialy when the family comes along.

I, personaly would want my huabsnd to myself, i would hope that everything i do would be enough for him and he would always be happy, but if another sis in need then i cannot reject it. You should want for your sister what you want for yourself. If Allah says a man can marry up to 4 wives then Alla wills, if He say 100 then Allah wills.

Alhamdulillah ala kulli haal- All praise is for Allah in all circumstances.

[sister j]

ye but islam forbids polygaMy. coz if a women wer 2 hav more den 1 husbad n beared a child, man it wud b confusing, who is d husband? n goin thru all dem DNA tests 2 find out? wich can sumtyms even b wrong!! lol

but yep jealousy is in human nature, b woman by men. so u cant blame a woman 4 feelin jealous, i wud 4 sure!! cant help it. not dat i eva am jealous ova general tings coz its a disgustin emotion!! but in dem cases i tink wud jus cum 2most of us sisters naturally!!! mashAllah 2 dem sisters outder dat wud b a 2nd wife etc....dey hav so much sabr n understandin!!

also lik sis roohiya, many 1st wifes do allow der husbands 2 get married agen coz dey may want a child dat der 1st wife aint able 2 giv really sad dem situtations. 2 bros who may want more den 1 wife, gudluk :thumbsup: its a tuff job lol

[*Prisoner650*]

im back, didnt bother going to sleep

well if Allah allowed this to take place we shouldnt look down on it if u knw what i mean, we should accept it, i did some reading just a while ago about this issue and i do feel guilty for going totally against the issue, but still i think men should marry once unless they have a valid reason for a second marriage... i would prefer if he asked me rather than doing it without my permission

[roohiya]

sis muslimah, amazing post. like i said, circumstances can change. i could imagine it being a difficult thing...a co-wife.

[roohiya]

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unless they have a valid reason for a second marriage

[SUHORA]

i wonder wats da valid reason for getting married again

i have notice not a single bro has posted on this thread only frm THE UNKNOWN bro, hmmmmm seem like bro's r bking off this topic :icon_smile_lol: .